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Esther Perel: Are You Thriving or Surviving?
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Esther Perel: Are You Thriving or Surviving?

“The child that can leave your lap knows that the lap will be there when they come back… The child that doesn’t feel safe will not leave you lap.” Esther Perel.
It was an absolute privilege to meet the brilliant Esther Perel at UNLEASH Amsterdam. The video was recorded at her press briefing prior to her keynote. It’s the second video I’ve edited from the press briefing; something I’ve been meaning to do for a very long time, but life got in the way. (Her first video has over 200k views.) Now that most of us are no longer traveling, working from home, I’ve had an opportunity to reflect on all of those projects I was planning on doing… from all those conferences events, workshops, and meetings: and actually start sharing. I’ve titled this video “Are You Thriving or Surviving?” A good question to reflect upon in such turbulent times. Esther delves into relationships with your boss, and abusive relationships at home and at work.
“I just think, you know, I got my bearings here. I know I know how to survive here. And surviving is the way I live. Which comes back to the last question, which you ask, which is not dead versus alive? Some people live on a level of surviving and some people live on the level of thriving. Some relationships are dead, and some relationships are alive. Some companies survive, some companies thrive. And everybody knows the difference between allocating all your resources just to survive, to make it to keep your head above water, to know where the danger is, to manage it versus feeling that you had the thing is stable.”
“It’s safe enough so you can actually go think, be creative, innovate, explore like a child. The child that can leave you lap knows that the lap will be there when they come back.”
“The child that doesn’t feel safe will not leave you lap. It’s in us from the start and it just stays like that but looks differently as we grow older or as the system becomes more complex.”